Working therapeutically with people in London from many different backgrounds and
careers, work related stress, boredom, procrastination, feeling overwhelmed and burnt
out, are common experiences. Symptoms of the pressures of living in today's hectic
society. Every day we are under pressure to work longer, harder, sacrifice more of
our lives than ever before in history. Coupled with this is our increasing reliance
on high speed communication technologies, mobile, laptops, iPads, all keeping our
minds constantly active. Often our work / life balance and self care is neglected.
Learn quick and effective ways of regaining the balance in your life.
• Insomnia / Sleeplessness / Sleeping problems
Not being able to sleep and insomnia is another common problem that I regularly receive
enquiries about. Sleep problems and insomnia are often accompanied, and amplified
by worry, and the inability to settle and relax the mind and body. Lack of sleep
can cause a range of problems with the mind and the body - the lowering of performance,
slowing of reaction times, and the increased risk of anxiety and depression. Working
together to explore the underlying causes and formulate a solution for your sleeplessness,
restlessness and insomnia. Helping you find your way back to deep relaxing rejuvenating
• Anxiety / Panic Attacks
If I were to ask you how you are feeling today on an 0 - 10 scale, 0 being completely
relaxed and comfortable and 10 being the most stressed / anxious you have felt in
the last two weeks, what would you say? I regularly help people to quickly reduce
their experience of anxiety from a self ratings of 8+ down to below a self rating
of 3. Stress and Anxiety expresses itself in many psychological and physiological
ways, you may notice that your heart races or pounds, you feel hot, clammy, light
headed or dizzy. At such times, thoughts often tend to be predominantly negative
predictions. Anxiety and panic attacks are often amplified by our past experiences,
which are projected into the future as perceived threats or imagined consequences.
These patterns of thinking and behaving often form the basis of self-fulfilling prophecy,
thus unconsciously creating the negative experience that has been anticipated.
• Fear / Phobia / Aversion
Fear is one of our primordial emotions we inherit genetically from our early ancestors,
as human beings we are wired to be cautious and vigilant against potential threats
in our environments. From an Existential perspective, we tend to avoid thinking about
our own potential injury, suffering, and inevitable bodily death, such uncomfortable
thoughts and emotions are often relegated to the subconscious / unconscious mind
to be worn like a shadow that is difficult to turn and face. Phobias are often the
result of negative / traumatic experiences in our pasts that have created a pattern
of thinking and behaviour, that is triggered by a particular stimulus or environmental
context. Maybe your are thinking about this right now as you read this. Whatever
your fear / phobia - vertigo and heights, needles, confined spaces or social engagements,
there is often a simple solution once we have a clear understanding of the underlying
reasons for the fear and phobic reaction.
• Life Crisis / Breaking point
Everyone has their breaking point, and life crisis can come in many forms in a lifetime,
for example: Feeling lost, stuck, and not knowing what to do with your life. Sudden
loss of employment, the prospect of marriage, divorce, or the death of a friend or
a loved one. Facing the reality of sudden illness, disability or disease, or our
own inevitable death. Perhaps you have been struggling with the kind of life you
have been living for some time, and feel that you have come to the end of your tether.
If you feel you are experiencing a life crisis, or feel you are at breaking point,
why not drop me an e-mail to begin discussing things.
• Frustration / Jealousy / Anger / Aggression
Emotions such as frustration, jealousy, anger, and aggression are often seen as destructive
emotions, and yet they are also important as they exist to alert us when we perceive
something is wrong, or alert us to situations where our needs or desires are not
being met. Often in working with emotions such as frustration, jealousy, anger, and
aggression, what is found is that these emotions are founded on particular beliefs,
perceptions, and assumptions. One of the main factors in how we cope with these emotions,
is where we lie on the continuum of either being emotionally under controlled, or
emotionally over controlled. Whether we are able to express our emotions effectively
or actively suppress emotions, which often only serves to amplify and strengthen
the destructive emotions that are projected onto others and the world about us.
• Low Moods / Sadness / Depression
Low moods, sadness, and depression it seems are a modern day pandemic. The root cause
of these often disabling moods, is the modern day pressures of living in an increasingly
uncertain world. A world that is increasingly portrayed as being bankrupt and divided.
Every day the newspapers and television programs vividly reminds us of the precarious
nature of life on this fragile world of ours. Depression is
• Grief / Loss / Bereavement
Grief, loss, and bereavement are inevitable in life, such times often provide a reality
check in relation to what we feel, think and believe. Elizabeth Kubler - Ross (1969)
described five stages that we go through in relation to death and grieving - Denial;
Anger; Bargaining; Depression; and finally Acceptance. As a guide, I find this particular
structure useful in describing the kinds of emotions that are most commonly experienced
in relation to processing the experience of grief, loss, bereavement, and of attachments
being lost or broken.
• Relationship Problems / Loss of Intimacy / Communication / Conflict Resolution
At the centre of our lives are our relationships, whether good ones that bring us
joy, bad ones that bring sadness, and indifferent ones. I know that I have had my
share of relationship problems, however, isn’t this how we all gain experience. At
the core of my counselling and therapeutic work with relationships, often lies issues
around communicating clearly about our feelings and our unmet needs.
• Gender / Sexual Attraction / Sexuality Concerns / Sexual Problems
One area of human relationship that is often difficult to speak about, concerns issues
in relation to gender, attraction, sexuality, and sexual problems - differences in
libido and or difficulties with sexual arousal. The first thing to do in relation
to sexual problems is to consult your GP to make sure that there are no physiological
issues causing your particular problems. Over the years however, I have worked with
a wide range of issues in this particular area.
• Isolation / Loneliness
In a world that is growing in population by a approximately one billion people each
year, with many people choosing to live in densely populated areas, as with London,
where the population is edging towards 8,000.000 people. Yet in the heart of our
great civilisation people often dwell in isolation and loneliness. The reason for
this is often
• Lack of Confidence / Stage Fright / Performance Anxiety
Lack of confidence is another human experience, that often holds people back unnecessarily.
Lack of confidence is often a learnt / conditioned, it is developed over time by
avoiding certain situations where we feel we cannot do things successful, where we
feel we have a lack of mastery.
• Low self-esteem / Negative Self-image / Not feeling good enough
Low self-esteem and the development of a negative self image often begins early in
life, in the messages about ourselves that we received in our childhood, from parents
or caregivers, from our teachers, and from our employers.
• Eating disorders / Anorexia / Bulimia
To begin addressing eating disorders like those of anorexia and bulimia you should
start by consulting your GP, who will be able to give you a full health check and
talk to you about treatment options. The underlying psychological factors that drive
obsessions with body image and issues involving the control of emotions are diverse,
and often have their roots in early childhood.
• Obsessive Control Disorder (OCD) / Repetitive behaviours
Obsessive Control Disorder (OCD) has become part of our everyday language, perhaps
because everyone can experience times when we feel particularly dependent on doing
certain activities repetitively. However, for around 3% of the population unwanted
repetitive thoughts and behaviours, such as checking for example, become a problem
in every day life. OCD usually becomes apparent between early adolescence and early
adulthood, and effects men and women equally. After exploring how your obsessions
and compulsions function in your life, and their meaning, we can then begin to…
Post Traumatic Stress Disorder (PTSD) is identified mainly by intrusive thoughts
regarding traumatic events, flashbacks, and nightmares that include specific details
of the trauma.
• Psychosomatic symptoms
Psychosomatic symptoms describes a wide range phenomena that are experienced after
prolonged exposure to stress, anxiety, and tension. Examples include: ???? Engaging
in therapy provides the opportunity to explore a number of the central features of
psychosomatic symptoms or Body-Mind problems. In particular, the meaning of the symptoms
from a historical and theoretical perspectives, the role that concrete thinking plays,
and difficulties identifying and communicating feelings. Examples of psychosomatic
symptoms include: Hives,
• Life’s transitions / Support during and after major life events
Life is full of transitions, how we cope and adapt to the major changes that happen
in our lives can be a very individual experience.
• Personal development / Finding your passion / Confidence building / Achieving your
• Deep relaxation training / Calming and revitalising you mind and body
• Improving your concentration and your ability to maintain focus and
• Learn to use meditation, self-hypnosis and the power of visualisation
• Enhance your personal performance in business
• Enhance your sports performance and create a winning mind set for success
The above examples are not intended to be an exhaustive list. For more information
on my practice of Counselling Psychology, Psychotherapy, Cognitive Hypnotherapy &
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to therapy, mental health and diagnosed conditions - read psychological therapy.
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The Performance Coaching and Psychological Sports Coaching I provide is incredibly
flexible and can be tailored to whatever professional career or sport you are passionate
about and want to develop. Whether you are a professional or an amateur within your
chosen field of sport, often physical excellence is just not enough. Together we
can find ways of helping you to quickly enter into your zone, and enhance and maintain
your peak performance. For more information read -Peak Performance Coaching & Psychological
Psychological therapy is not necessarily just about resolving problems and challenges
Where necessary, psychological therapy and coaching can involve working experientially
with body work, building new resources and life skills, using exercises that are
easy to learn and practice:
• Advanced breathing techniques to calm and revitalise
• Relaxation techniques and exercises developed from the arts of Aikido and Tai Chi
• Computerised Bio-Feedback that enable you to see when you are working optimally
• Practice sessions to developing a meditation and mindfulness practice
• Techniques to enhance your visualisation skills and your creative imagination
• Focusing training to help you access your intuition and inner wisdom
• Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing (EMDR) for trauma
• Emotional Freedom Technique (EFT) ‘tapping’ new inner resources
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helpful. If you require any further information about the psychological-therapy services
that I provide, or would like to arrange a private meeting to discuss your individual
therapy needs, please do not hesitate to contact me, either by phone, e-mail or by